Validating emotions

If you're unable to bring a healthy sense of self-love into them you will always be seeking validation and end up disappointed by your expectations of others.” ― Nanette Mathews “When we accept the labels placed on us by ourselves and others, we then restrict and limit ourselves based on those labels.

While the client learns skills to improve self-acceptance, the therapist employs validation strategies, including the following: Methods of Validation In working with clients, DBT therapists are careful to avoid invalidating behaviors and responses that dismiss, reject, or criticize the client’s emotions and behaviors.Understanding and validating emotions is only half of the equation. A common practice in conventional child discipline is to not accept the child’s feelings or actions, but to attempt, instead, to correct both. It is a wonderful, light, consuming feeling we long for, and once found, we hope—even expect—it will forever remain.But there are times when that most precious love is revoked, and a hard scab forms over the empty hole.