I often hear clients say, “There are no good men in ______.” (Insert whichever city, the problem is the same.) The client believes that since they haven’t been able to find good men or they aren’t approached by as many men as they were in their 20s or 30s that it means that the well of good men in their town has totally dried up.It’s not a universal problem, it is due to their location, their status, their career, their divorce/kids/etc. If they believe that there are no good men around them they definitely will not see them.For many men and women, the problem is knowing how to start.
Starting Over After 40"Often, people over 40 reentering the dating scene are newly divorced or separated.Women over 40 are more likely to be established, have homes, established friends, and secure jobs.You are more likely to know what you are looking for.If yogis have been repeating Sanksrit words for centuries surely the average woman can change a couple negative words around every now and then. Instead of using phrases like “no, but” try to replace your wording and thoughts with “yes, and…” Even if the negative mantra is only in your head, “I’m too old to find a man,” or “I’m too fat, if I lost 10 lbs.someone would want me,” with supportive, loving statements.