Father in Heaven, I know I add fuel to the fire in my relationships because I am needy myself. Thank You that You see me as I truly am and that You still love me. If your unmet needs are showing up in your relationships, talk to a mentor, friend, or a counselor to work through some of these issues. It’s a natural tendency to want God to change the other person.
No matter what the means, we must never forget the need for Hashem’s participation in the facilitation of such meetings and in opening our own “metzarim,” limitations, enabling us to see the suitability or lack of suitability of a particular potential soul mate.
“Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? Therefore honor God with your bodies.” I Corinthians -20 …you are living together.
I assume you know right and wrong when it comes to sins such as lying, stealing, and killing.
In Yaakov’s case, prayer for endurance and fortitude followed the giving of the gifts as well as preceding his least favored approach of war.
Anything and everything that we long for must be accompanied by prayer, even those things that seem to occur by natural means.