Some men are lucky enough to find their soul mates and grow old with them. The divorce rates should prove that there are more men finding themselves single again (maybe even for the second and third time) when they reach their 40s or 50s.
It is really frustrating to find oneself thinking and wondering what went wrong; and a lot more depressing finding yourself looking for someone new to be with.
—-In the 1933 Universal Horror film, The Invisible Man, Claude Rains plays a scientist who becomes invisible when he starts experimenting with a dangerous chemical.
This radical and sudden change turns him from a compassionate seeker of knowledge into a murderer, bent on chaos and destruction. He refuses the call to action that will lead to the journey that will change his life forever. We can even teach other men how to become invisible. I will now show you the ingredients that led to my invisibility.
His entire refrigerator was categorized by shelves with its own Excel spreadsheet. Being married before means you are brave enough to make a commitment. Leave these men to embarrass themselves and date cocktail waitresses who are 22.
Inflexible with a capital "I." Had a few dates with a man who was 45, never married, no kids. Don't believe their professions that they just haven't found "someone." They are single for real reasons. I dated one man who whined about how women didn't understand him, that everyone he cared for left him. All the women with any intelligence and self worth did leave when they figured out he was a narcissistic ass wipe with the emotional maturity of a 5-year-old.
Allow me to ask the question the piece goes out of its way to leave unacknowledged: What about straight single women over 35 who are seeking commitment and maybe even a family?
Don't waste your time dating a man over 40 who's never been married and had kids. If you are a single male, you believe that you are number one.
If you've never had kids, you still think the world revolves around you.
Being a parent teaches you that lots of crappy little stuff happens but as long as everyone gets home in one piece, it's a good day.
A full Spin class is a bummer but not a life changer -- certainly not the same level of upset as discovering your child's racked up a cellphone bill of over 8 in one month. Being a parent, you're used to the quick change of plans. Someone vomits in their backpack on the way to school and suddenly you are working from home that day. Put the coconut water on the top shelf by mistake and thought he was going to collapse in his granite perfection of a kitchen in a full on seizure. Yes, we've been married, and our marriages failed, but at least we had the courage to say "I do." Maybe we failed miserably, but we took the walk down the aisle, threw the wedding bouquet and put ourselves in debt to have a kick ass party. Women so young and naive that they can't discern their emotional disabilities.