It's a lot easier to be cool, calm, and witty when you have time to actually think and write out your responses. He knows you're available and lonely, so when he's available and lonely, he can hit you up.Having to emulate that same level of hilariousness in real life is a challenge. Maybe you regret it in retrospect; but you shouldn't be going to meet a stranger anywhere unless you feel totally comfortable with it. He's not actually serious about you, girl -- you even openly admit your conversations don't have a lot of depth to them. Hopefully all pictures were current, because if you don't look exactly like your pictures, then neither one of you is going to sleep with anybody except yourselves. A lot of you have these online long-distance relationships that go on and on and on, but the only way these relationships will ever turn into something is if you represent yourselves exactly as you really look! Every picture you send is a picture you took today. You don't want to find out that he's 40 pounds heavier and bald, even though he had a full head of hair and looks like a young Marlon Brando in the picture, and you don't want to be sending him pictures of yourself when you were skinny when now you're 200 pounds overweight. The thing is, when you first meet someone you've been chatting with online, the first thing he's going to do as a male is look at you up and down and say to himself, "Thank God man, she looks like her pictures." If you don't look like your picture, then we're going to retreat. The best way to get to a man is to appeal to his visual sense.Because when you meet them, you might just get a friend vibe.Stay at a hotel when first visiting someone you've met through an online dating service, do not stay at the other person's home. Safe dating is successful dating, don't rush things. Wanting to see the other person as soon as you get off the plane is natural but keep your safety in mind.
Feeling somebody's energy in person, that's how you make a decision if you're ready to sleep with them or not. All you need to do when it comes down to something like this is to remain present.Keep the name and exact location of your hotel to yourself until you are completely sure of the other person's intentions.Arrange public meeting places until you're comfortable in each other's company.Can you really decide to sleep with someone before you've ever met in person? Standing there naked, literally stripping for them (if you want to go that route and have a little bit of Skype fun), showing them your entire body, who you are, what you look like, sending them pictures every single day in order to flirt. You never know until you're someone's friend what you're going to feel and what you desire, and what you want.I get this e-mail all the time, yet I seem to always be writing posts about it that no one seems to be reading. Because then the long distance relationship will turn into a fun relationship because when they finally see you, they're super, super excited because they've seen all of you. There is no way in the world you can make that decision until he gets there, until you're in the same room together and you feel the sexual energy—or you don't. You can't make a decision before somebody comes if you're going to sleep with them.