If the rat gets a pellet every time, it soon gets satiated and stops pressing the lever.If, on the other hand, the rat does not receive a pellet every time the lever is pressed, but receives a pellet intermittently, the rat will increase the frequency with which it presses the lever. What kind of role did these things play in my former relationship/s?How do I know if I am experiencing these things now?In an experiment, mice pressed a lever and a morsel of food was delivered.In this consistent practice the mice eventually got full and stopped pressing the lever.The goal of the experiment is to have the rat press a lever as many times as possible.The rat is given a pellet of food after it presses a lever.
Easy, give her attention intermittently and unpredictably.
How do I either get out of a relationship in which these things are active -- or stay in the relationship without being victimized by these dynamics?
Whether we decide to end a relationship with someone with BPD, stay with them, or whether the person is a parent or a child, it is necessary to understand "traumatic bonding", and "intermittent reinforcement", and how these things might keep us involved with the person in an unhealthy way.
The fear of not receiving the reward was so strong they literally harmed themselves just for the chance of getting it.
In relationships, intermittent reinforcement works the same way: periods of love and affection are alternated with periods of abuse, neglect, and creating fear of losing the relationship.