Well, me and this guy started sleeping together about two weeks ago and we're crazy about each other. My feeling is that she would be very hurt, but at the same time I don't want to pass up a chance to be with someone who could turn out to be the love of my life, you know?
So a part of me wants to tell her in the hopes that she would be happy for me, but when I put myself in her shoes hearing this news, I think I'd be devastated.
I’m not gonna lie, being friends with an ex isn’t easy.
You may find yourself re-living all the hurt and pain of the breakup (and does anyone wanna go through that nightmare twice?!
” And most people just assume we started the site while we were together and are now stuck in some sort of joint custody nightmare. We started the site long after our relationship ended and soon after our new-found friendship came to be.
Eric isn’t the only ex I’ve been able to be friends with, there actually are a few of them.
Dear Friendship Doctor, I have a best friend who is like a sister.
Well she stopped talking to me after I tried to be honest with her about wanting to go out with her ex.
I think what you are looking for is a way to share this with your friend without losing her friendship. I think you are also hoping to alleviate some guilt you may be feeling about hurting someone you care deeply about.
I don’t want to lose my friendship with her cause she was my like a sister but what should I do because I’m already with the guy.
Am I the bad person for doing what I did even though I was honest? Signed, Ellie Dear Ellie, Being honest about wanting to date your friend’s ex was better than going behind her back but you haven’t mentioned whether or not she gave you the go ahead once you told her.
I'm torn between my own desire for lasting relationship bliss and my desire to preserve the most important friendship in my life. —Something Has to Give Submit Your Own Question to a Therapist Your friend is going to be hurt. When you made the choice to start hanging out with your best friend’s ex without telling her, that’s when you made the decision to hide your actions, and possibly your feelings, from her.
On some level you must have known that she would be bothered by it, and you chose not to tell her.