And yet even when the number of people who are considered overweight form the majority of the population, obesity is in many ways one of the remaining acceptable prejudices.
Last week, the #fatshamingweek hastag was trending on Twitter as numerous assholes and shitbags took to the network and decided to mock fat people – mostly women, but men too – from behind the dubious anonymity of their Twitter accounts.
None of us have a hard time getting dates, finding love, or sex, whatever it is we happen to be looking for.
In our culture, people are taught, unfortunately, that being fat is bad. A fat person is just as worthy of love, respect, and kindness as any other person.
As well, my race has always played a significant role in navigating trust of potential partners.
Large dudes will frequently lament that their size automatically disqualifies them from dating – they believe that there is simply no way a woman could possibly like somebody who’s body isn’t rippled and shiny like a buttered ear of corn. Kevin Smith, for all of his fashion sins that I will get into in a second, is happily married with a lovely wife and daughter. It’s easy to forget this when the TV and magazines are showing you nothing but image after image of cut, veiny men with swimmers builds with women draped all over them like fur stoles, but women actually like a far wider range of body types than we’d think.
Ask five women what their ideal male build is and you’ll get six different answers.
It gives me a sense of relief and safety because it can be assumed that I’m not a fat girl experiment for you.
In high school, I dated a guy who only asked me out to humiliate me in front of his friends.