I invested in several fruitless relationships with men who were avoidant, emotionally unavailable, inconsistent and generally noncommittal.
This was a frustrating and really draining time in my life (especially because most of the men I chose also lived interstate).
You know the story – you meet, connect, have a few great conversations, maybe a kiss or two and before you know it you’re ‘seeing each other’.
As the light, casual conversations start to move into deeper, heavier topics, all of a sudden you’re discussing joint holidays and meeting each other’s parents.
Just as the excitement grows, your date starts to pull away, becomes distant and unavailable and next thing you know, they’ve done a Phantom and you’re out in the cold.
I know this all sounds like justification, but he really has made improvements in the past year.
Before me, he was in two longer-term relationships, and he said that he’s never had what we have now, that he’s never even considered marriage and kids with anyone else before and that I’m not just his girlfriend, I’m his best friend.