If you are dating someone who doesn’t have a personal relationship with Christ, you are playing with fire. Don’t let the relationship progress to a physical point and then hope you can cut it off later. You need all the help you can get in today’s world. Do you depend on Him to meet your needs of love and security? If you can’t stand the person but have a great physical relationship, rethink the relationship. If one person is uncomfortable with any type of physical expression, don’t do it. Don’t push a date to do anything that makes him/her feel uncomfortable. As Denise and I start pre-marital counseling and begin this new journey together, I’ve been thinking about our time in the awkward middle — you know, when you’re not married or single. I’ve intentionally made this post brief because I think that we can over-complicate dating. The most important thing you should focus on is your personal character. Some of the popular points are helpful, but they never seem to address the . And if you’ve been dating a girl longer than 18 months and you’re still not engaged, you may need to seriously question your motives. SEE ALSO: 5 Lies Every Single Christian Believes If you get this wrong, it doesn’t matter what you get right. As a general rule, six months of dating someone is a good timeline to then get engaged.And so I think the church really serves and helps Christian singles consider marriage and consider dating.Within the covenant community of faith, there should be those around a person that can speak of their reputation and whether they are serious about growing in the Lord and putting sin to death in their life. Is there seriousness in this person to grow in their relationship and understanding with the Lord?But in a day when so much nominalism passes for authentic maturity, give us a few simple marks of spiritual growth that a man or woman should be looking for in a potential spouse.I think what you are looking for is seriousness about growth in the person’s faith.
Christian culture is like any other in that we develop truisms that we accept without verifying.
You are destined to be with her, and God will guide you to her." Good luck finding this one in the Bible.
There is plenty of stuff about God's will for his people, God wanting good things for you, and God's ultimate plan.
SEE ALSO: 11 Things Every Single Christian Should Know Crazy, I know. Men, if you’re serious about the girl you’re dating (as you should be), then pursue her friendship. Then read , and keep doing point number one listed above. Paul makes over 200 references to union with Christ in the New Testament. Feast on the gospel daily, and allow the power of the Spirit to empower your pursuit of purity.
My best advice to pursue purity is to meet with a married Christian couple you know and trust and talk to them about sexual purity in your dating relationship.