It's easy to blame our short attention span on the overwhelming number of fish in the sea (or in this case, dating apps); on today's casual dating culture, where the word "official" is scarier than going shark diving without the cage; or on the assumption that if the other person wasn't ghosting you as well, has another theory: We actually ghost because of our own fears and insecurities—neither trait being particularly appealing or sexy.In the interest of becoming slightly more evolved beings who are actually able to communicate like real adults, we tapped the relationship expert to give us a how-to guide to breaking up—when you've never actually been official, that is. How do you tell someone you're just not that interested?The person you are breaking up with might exhibit strong emotions from hearing their relationship is over. Be decent, and break the news over a long walk with the person or in the privacy of their home. No one deserves to hear something difficult while at or before work, on their birthday, or moments before they take off on a plane for a long-planned vacation.Chances are, you’ve been thinking about this breakup for quite some time now and it isn’t a decision you came to quickly, so it shouldn’t be difficult to plan your day and time for the breakup accordingly. Break up Face to Face It will be hard but you must breakup face to face.While it may seem extremely tempting and enticing, you shouldn’t follow your ex’s social footprint.Whether this means unfriending your ex, unfollowing him or her or simply hiding him or her from your newsfeed, there’s no point in looking at photos of your ex at a birthday party, taking trips to the beach or dining at the nicest restaurant in town.
How you approach a breakup should directly correlate to the length of the relationship and its intensity.But whatever the case may be, it’s never been more important to avoid these six actions that can cause you even more heartache and heartbreak after a breakup.If you just broke up with your partner, you should leave whatever transpired between the two of you in the past.You can go on multiple dates without having sex and never intend to go any further.And you can have an entire relationship that is largely based in your head until one day you decide you're over it.