Being a widower and dating

In an effort to ignore their grief, heal quicker or prevent loneliness, a widower will often jump into a new relationship before he is ready.Before you become overly involved with a widower, figure out whether he is looking for a long-term relationship or a short fling to prevent either party from being hurt.If you are dating or planning to marry a widow or widower, here are some suggestions and thoughts to consider.

I'm 39, and like many younger bereaved people, I've had to get used to a word I never thought would apply to me: widower.If you are interested in establishing a romantic relationship with a man who has lost his wife, you will need to give him time and space to come to terms with his emotions.Whether it takes weeks, months or years, a widower is the only one who will know when he is ready to date again.I discovered quite quickly that I hated the word, as it emphasised what I've lost.Nevertheless, in the months after my wife's death, a grieving widower was exactly what I was, all the while trying to keep things together to be a good father.